As Mary suggested:

One more idea for you is to visit our sister site, eldercareabc.com and pose a question to one of our experts there: http://eldercareabc.com/ask-experts

Best,

Mary

Lorett Fribourg wrote:
> Hi Mary,
> I wanted to post a question on elder care.
> My Dad just turned 96 last week. Yes 96. and he's in great shape for the shape he's in!
> No major problems at all. On his second pacemaker. He's alittle unstable on his feet, has a cane he uses most of the time. He's fallen several times. Thankfully nothing serious yet. Still drives within a 3-4 mile radius of home, mostly to the grocery store, almost every day.. Not at night anymore. Mom's been gone 7 years. He is still in the home they lived in for 35years. He does his oen wash, cooks, takes care of himself very well. He has the maid come in to do the major cleaning. We have family nearby . My brother is here and my nephew, we pick Dad up and take him to dinner regularly. Life is pretty good for for him. But most of time he's  by himself.  We want to move into a beautiful Independent Care Facility nearby. He'd be around people. Eat three proper meals a day and maybe have some fun. He's doesnt want to leave his memories. We have told him he can take what ever he wants with him. That Mom will be ith him where ever he goes.  He has said yes twice then changed his mind the next day.
> Taking him to one of our homes won't be the best either. We all work, and he's still be be himself most of the time.  It's not safe for him to live alone any longer. What do we do to get him to move?
> Lorett